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Okay. There is a lot to unpack here, for victims of either gender, 

but it can be resolved. 

Let's go.

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As soon as we are born, most babies have spots that are ticklish. Some scientists think ticklishness is one tool for self-protection. 

I was very ticklish in my feet, yet I spent most summers as a child barefoot. 

My ticklishness came in handy when out in a pasture one day, 

I stepped on a snake barefoot. 

It slid out from under me, and I noticed. Zowzie!

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When we reach a certain age, certain body parts become 'erogenous zones' ,

that become more sensitive to touch - than when we were younger.

This is part of 'puberty'. Our genitals, when touched a certain way give, can bring feelings of pleasure, and a desire for something more, 

that we may not understand exactly what we crave. Other of our body parts also suit up and get in the game.

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This is how God designed us. This craving, properly controlled, or not, can bring conception between a male and female.

Puberty hit me at 12-years-old. Parts of my body I seldom thought about, became erogenous zones when the girl behind me 

in class whispered my name and touched my shoulder with her wrist to pass forward homework toward the front row. 

I developed a libido.

 

A libido is like a hunger, mostly in the groin, that will manifest itself. 

And erogenous zones are used to both excite and satisfy the libido. This is called sexual arousal.

But at the same time, our bodies are maturing, and we may have cravings we don't understand.

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Here's the key: God designed our genitals and other erogenous zones to respond in certain ways to certain stimulation. 

Those 'zones' have no ability to discern between right or wrong. 

Zones, of themselves, cannot discern between married-touch and stepfather-touch or teacher-touch, etc.

They can only think 'I feel nothing', 'Feels Good!' or 'Hurts!' 

And if the zones are manipulated skillfully, our zones will send pleasure messages to our brain. 

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Let me insert another personal account here:

I was sitting on my deck with my wife and some of the creatures we both share DNA with.

My wife was talking to some of those children, while I was half-dozing in my chair.

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The youngest one, (3-years-old) while my eyes were closed, came over to me,

and to get my attention, rubbed my zipper (not yet old enough to understand 'private parts').

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Frankly, it felt marvelous. My groin didn't know or care who did it.

My groin thought on its own, as it had in the past, and sent positive messages to my brain.

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I opened my eyes and was startled and momentarily ashamed, when I realized it wasn't my wife.

(though that too, would have surprised me, given the circumstances).

Our erogenous zones act without analyzing the source of the pleasurable feelings.

It's like seeing huge cupcakes in a bakery shoppe window. Who cares who make the cupcakes?

But there are two circumstances when someone of any age can be sexually-compromised to pleasure.

1) A young person that is groomed to believe that what the molester wants to do is proper and good. 

    This gives the groomer consent-access to the genitals and gives them the opportunity to manipulate the genitals, 

     to create sexual arousal, which gives compliance, but is an 'inappropriate consent and compliance'.

     Inappropriate consent, no matter how gently it is procured, is still violence.

    It is violent because of the age of the victim.   This is why slow-grooming is so wicked.

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2) An adult, after being restrained, can sometimes be manipulated with foreplay, either with or without mind-altering chemicals.

    Sometimes, after a time, skillful, forced-foreplay might produce sexual arousal, compliance and temporary consent.

    This type of consent, is a form of violence, and I would suggest is a variation of 'Stockholm Syndrome'.

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Now, what about you, as a victim?  You were given a body, with certain parts capable of sexual arousal.

Unfortunately, violent people (some violent people are very gentle), used you as a sex toy.

That person knew a lot about your body, probably more than you did at the time.

and they played you like a violin. And your body responded.

They misused you. Take it at that.

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Also know this:

A boy being manipulated by a man to enjoy sex does not mean that boy is a homosexual.

The boy should not accept that message from his pervert molester.

He is a boy who was molested by a perverse male.

A girl manipulated by a woman to enjoy sex, does not mean that girl is a lesbian.

The girl should not accept that message from her perverse molester. 

She is a girl who was molested by a perverse female.

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Acknowledge the situation to God, along with a local person experienced in helping sex-victims reconnect with God.

A good church will help you find a person to speak with about your tragedy.

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Peace, and Love in Christ,

eric j. rose

idontwantgod.com