God says no to sex outside of marriage,

yet many people are created out-of-wedlock,

Give me a few minutes to take a heavy load off your shoulders.

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(I think my conception is the only speed race I’ve ever won.) 

My father served in WW2, in the Pacific. His ship, the USS Chilton, took two hits at different times by kamikaze planes, and another time, the USS Chilton broke up in rough seas and sank. 

He could have died there. (I've read the MIA telegram my grandmother received.)

If he had died, my mother (then a high school girl) likely would have married someone else, 

and it’s unlikely the egg cell that became me, would have ever been fertilized. 

I exist because of who my parents were.

 
Consider all the men who died during WW2, leaving behind wives, 

who remarried and had children by their new husbands. 

Those 2nd-tier children exist because of the selfishness of Hitler, Hirohito and Mussolini. 

Yes, as much as people hate Hitler, he had a direct hand in the conception of hundreds of thousands of baby-boomers, and their descendants.
Many of today’s antifa members exist explicitly because of Hitler’s cruel insanity. 

Now that's a mind-bender, eh? 

More of my backstory: I am the fourth child conceived to my parents; 

with two older sisters and an older brother. My brother died at a few hours old. 

I was told that I was tried-for because my older brother died. 

Though it was meant to be a positive message, I later realized that if my brother had lived, 

I would not have been born. I would not have been tried for.

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We need to end the fairytale that every child that was conceived, was destined to be conceived. 

If that is the case, why was Charles Manson or killers like him conceived?

My opinion: God invented life, Adam and Eve, and their DNA, and set the world loose.

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Now let’s step into Black America. 

Today’s 'diaspora' African-Americans exist because of slavery. 

George W. Carver, Frederick Douglass, Harriet Tubman, MLK, Oprah Winfrey, Maxine Waters, 

Lena Horne and Michelle Obama could never have been born unless their ancestors had been sold to white slave traders by rival African tribes or by Muslim traders selling human flesh. 

Most of these folks with a slave heritage, they know that they couldn’t exist unless someone else had done something, very wrong, very bad. 

They are the result of someone else’s sins, both large and small. 

This makes some of them feel illegitimate, right? 

Go up any family tree far enough, you will find that slavery, adultery, murder, war, disease, poison, early widow(er)hood, fornication, sex trafficking, etc. created our lineages; hence, all of us. 

I'm part UK heritage and many poor UK people were given 'assisted migration' to the US. 

They were apprehended and dumped in America. Human trafficking.

They may have been among my ancestors.

Being a crime show watcher, it occurs to me that the children of murderers, 

who were conceived after the murder, never should have been conceived or born, eh? 

I wonder how these children of criminals feel?

Perhaps that is one reason so many of these children refuse to believe their parent could be guilty of the crimes they have been convicted of.

Does our conception-status brand us as unworthy of life?  NO!

Does our conception-status brand us unworthy of God's love? NO!

 

But it does say something about God, that He is willing to commune with people like us, 

who never should never have been conceived.

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Perhaps this is the real rub; people want to feel they deserved to be born. 

And if they deserved to be born, then the world must owe them something. 

(I know many people like this)

Not true. The world does not owe us anything, and neither does God.

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Now, let us talk about my maternal grandfather. He was apparently born out-of-wedlock, 

then adopted by the man that my great-grandmother later met and married. 

He was 'illegitimate', which makes me illegitimate. That's the way it works. 

But fatherlessness and illegitimacy, while related, are not exactly the same thing. 

I am illegitimate, but I was not fatherless, 

so I haven't had the difficulties that true fatherless boys have.

A note to those in 1st-generation fatherlessness: 

Other than abortion, fatherlessness is perhaps the ultimate disenfranchisement. 

But as a man, I have to protest deadbeat dads taking all the heat for fatherless children. 

Unless the mother was raped, she is as much to blame for fatherless children as the men, 

because she did not make sure her children would have a married biodad at home

before she 'did the deed'.

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If you grew up fatherless, I feel sorry for you on a level you might not be able to comprehend. 

God does not discount you because of how you were conceived.

For all the scolding Jesus did in the New Testament, 

He never scolded anyone for being conceived outside of marriage,

but He does urge us 'illegitimate' people to follow Him.

Note: I have built a website just for fatherless adult males;

eric j. rose