My parents divorced
"My parents used to go to church, but then divorced, and I don't know what to do.
If they can't make a marriage work, how can I make a marriage work?
And if I just live with someone, God won't like that.
What do I do?"
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I have seen this happen many times.
Too many young people in America, their life-foundations were destroyed by parental divorce.
I'm so very sorry this happened to you,
but let me share a few truths that will eventually make you feel better, if you allow it.
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1) God is still on the throne after your parents divorced.
If you thought that His presence forces people do what is right, you were wrong.
God was on the throne when Adolf Hitler was in power, and Hitler was able to use his evil free will,
as did one or both of your parents when they divorced.
2) If you think that your parents' failure destines you to marital failure, you are so wrong.
My wife's parents divorced after 30+ years of troubled marriage,
and yet she and I are nearing 40 years of marriage and doing well.
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While we inherit sin natures from our parents, and are often trained by them to be selfish,
we have the free will to do what is right as adults.
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Your marriage will depend on how you and your spouse use your free wills.
Granted, because of your parents' failures, you may not instinctively know 'best practices' for marriage.
You may need more mentoring as you go along.
Don't be afraid to seek the advice of older people who know how to be married.
And don't neglect 'The Golden Rule' and 1 Corinthians 7 as the guide for marriage, which one or both of your parents neglected.
You can do better than your parents at most things, if you choose.
You can do worse than your parents at most things, if you choose.
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And God holds each of responsible for our own actions.
God wants you to succeed at everything you do, including marriage.
God is rooting for you.
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I know of more than one man, whose father was a pastor.
The pastor-father abandoned his wife and family for another woman.
This devastated the children and some of them left God because of it.
Yet, as they matured, some of them quit blaming God for their father's selfishness.
They put God back in His proper place, in their hearts, and began relating to God again.
Some of them even became pastors.
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The choice is yours.
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